I was honoured once to give the reading at a friends’ wedding. They’d chosen a reading they liked, but wanted it ‘sexed up a bit’ - and who better to ask? Like most wedding readings it was beautiful and poetic and spoke all about love and commitment and sharing and respecting - all good and important aspects of marriage - but nothing about sex and intimacy. As my friends rightly said: “It’s our sexual connection that brought us together and it’s what makes our relationship unique - so we want that celebrated in our wedding ceremony too!”
So, in the reading, I pointed out that a marriage (or any long-term relationship) is like a tripod. It has three legs: friends, partners, and lovers. When all three are strong, you have a strong relationship, when they’re wobbly or missing, so is your relationship.
Being friendsmeans just that: enjoying each other’s company, sharing conversation and activities, and generally being good companions.
Being partners means being teammates in the game of life: being able to successfully run your household and family, managing the logistical parts of life.
Being lovers means maintaining the ‘mmm’ factor, that special energy that connects you in a way unlike any other. It’s a light, joyful, delicious, connection that pervades your... read more
